adoption mods

[grammapat]

Need advice about which of the adoption mods I should use, and how they function (i.e. what choices are available).
I had an adoption mod installed, knew there was only one baby (a boy) in the "Pool", and wanted to adopt it. I picked "baby", and the wrong sex showed up. The baby was PUT UP for adoption by another mod - I don't know who did that mod; maybe the baby just ceases to exist ?

I deleted the mod; I think the mod I had was to allow teen adoption, but on searching I now find a number of different ones.  Now I'm confused about how it's even SUPPOSED to work.  The latest one I found (by Squinge of course) was 11-2008.

I also had "adopt same day" installed, and have read that they conflict (which might explain why the adoption was NOT the same day).

So what I want is basically to be able to do this:
adopt teens, choose skin tone, choose from pool or "create" (I understand you can only choose sex if kid is NOT from pool).

[Theraven]

As I said in your previous topic, please tell us which EPs/SPs you have, so they will know which mod you need.

[grammapat]

I have all EPs, and Glam, Celebrate, Family fun.

[Theraven]

The mod for AL made in 2008 is the newest, so if you have AL that's quite likely the one you want.

[grammapat]

I thought there was more than one adoption mod that involved picking teens and/or sex etc.